How to write a eulogy

A eulogy is a tribute that is given to honour someone’s life. Usually, a family member or close friend is asked to deliver one, and there may be several in order to cover different aspects of the person’s life. 

Delivering a eulogy is your chance to share memories and celebrate a life well-lived, but it can also feel overwhelming at an already emotional time.

We’ve created some tips on how to compose a eulogy to help make this important task more manageable for you. There's no single correct approach – every tribute is as unique as the person it honours, so take these tips as a starting point, and then don’t be afraid to make the process your own.

 

Getting started on how to write a eulogy

How do you write a eulogy? We know that getting started can be the hardest part. It might help to begin by gathering your thoughts and memories.

Consider having quiet conversations with family and friends to collect their stories too. Looking through photographs and letters, or taking a walk through familiar places can help spark meaningful stories.

A simple eulogy framework

Here's a simple framework to help structure your thoughts:

Early days and family

  • Birthplace and childhood memories
  • Parents, siblings, and other family connections
  • Special relationships with spouse, children, or grandchildren

Life’s journey

  • Educational achievements
  • Career path and accomplishments
  • Hobbies and interests
  • Community involvement

Personal touches

  • Favourite sayings or expressions
  • Memorable moments that bring smiles
  • Special places they loved
  • Music, books, or films they enjoyed

Practical tips on how to write a eulogy

If you're feeling unsure about delivering the eulogy, these suggestions may help you to feel more confident:

  • Practise reading your eulogy aloud beforehand
  • Take slow, deep breaths to stay calm
  • Remember that your friends and family are there to support you 
  • Consider asking someone else to read it if you prefer.
     

What’s most important

If you’re feeling unsure, know that by sharing your memories, you're helping everyone present to celebrate and remember your loved one. Your words, spoken from the heart, will be appreciated by all who attend.

If you're still feeling uncertain about how to write a eulogy, or about speaking on the day, remember you can always ask the celebrant or clergyperson for their help – they're experienced in helping families through this important moment.

 

There’s comfort in simplicity

Our experienced team understand that keeping things simple is the best approach — especially during difficult times. If you need to plan a funeral, we can help.

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